One of the patterns I’ve seen over 35+ years working with thousands of engineers, technical professionals, leaders, and managers is this: We overestimate what we can do alone and underestimate what we can do with the right people and systems around us.
If your Genie Goal still feels largely “in your head,” this is the month to build the village around it: the people, habits, and systems that make staying on track easier.
1. Clarify Your “Who” List
Take five minutes and jot down:
- Who benefits if you achieve this Genie Goal?
- Who could support you — emotionally, practically, or strategically?
- Who could help remove barriers or open doors?
These might be:
- A manager or partner
- A mentor or coach
- A peer or colleague
- A spouse or close friend
- A younger professional you’re modelling courage for
Pick one or two people and let them in. You don’t need a speech — just honesty:
“I’ve committed to a Genie Goal this year: [brief summary]. It matters to me because [reason]. Could I share occasional progress with you and ask for your perspective from time to time?”
Relationships are a key part of the Growth Through Learning philosophy. Genie Goals grow faster when they’re named in the community.
2. Build Simple Habits Around PAGERS (to Stay Healthy Enough to Grow)
When addressing psychological well-being, I refer to a model entitled PAGERS by Dr. Richard Winters, MD. Watch this video for more details. For our purposes here, think of it as a reminder to support your energy, not just your effort.
A simplified version:
- P – Physical: Am I caring for my body enough to have energy?
- A – Awareness: Am I noticing my thoughts, fears, and stories I’m telling myself?
- G – Growth: Am I learning something that supports my Genie Goal?
- E – Encouragement: Am I receiving and giving encouragement?
- R – Relationships: Am I investing in key relationships?
- S – Service: Am I using my strengths to help others?
Pick one PAGERS element that’s been neglected and create a micro-habit:
- Physical: A 15-minute walk after lunch to clear your head.
- Growth: 10 minutes a day learning a skill related to your Genie Goal.
- Encouragement: One message a week to someone pursuing their own goal.
These aren’t “extra.” They’re fuel.
3. Create a Simple System, Not a Heroic Plan
Instead of relying on willpower, design your environment to make the right actions easier:
- Visual cue: Keep your Genie Goal written where you see it daily (desk, phone lock screen, journal).
- Time cue: Keep a recurring calendar block labelled “Genie Goal – Focus Session.”
- Trigger cue: Tie your Genie Goal work to an existing habit (example: “After my first coffee, I spend 10 minutes on my Genie Goal”).
Remember: Willpower is a great starter, but systems are great finishers.
4. Consider Structured Support
If you’re finding it hard to stay consistent:
- Re-watch the Genie Goal video and revisit your notes.
If it’s a career or leadership Genie Goal, make use of our free (i.e., our Free Career Advancement Course) resources as stepping stones so you’re continually equipping yourself, not just pushing yourself.
Reflection Questions for This Month
- Who are the two people I want in my corner for this Genie Goal?
- Which part of PAGERS most needs attention right now?
- What one system (calendar block, reminder, trigger habit) will I put in place this week?
You don’t have to do this alone. In fact, you’re not supposed to. Let your Genie Goal be a catalyst not just for achievement, but for deeper connection and healthier rhythms in your life and work.
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